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Just Cindy – “Hugs”

Soooo awesome to know there are still people in this world that can look beyond differences and simply show love and compassion to a total stranger…now I have to tell you all the details so don’t go judging me and pointing a finger of accusation.
DON’T belittle my story! Earlier this evening Jamie and I went to Sam’s to get the flowers to do Nana’s casket spray. We carefully picked and chose what we thought she would love and went to check out. I gently placed my selections on the counter and the young lady started to ring them up. She asked another young lady to come over and hold them while she scanned them. In the mean time I put a long box on the counter and said we could just place them in the box.
As she helped me she said “ooooh these are sure some pretty flowers, what’s the special occasion” I paused for what seemed forever as I fought back the tears but I knew I had to answer or seem rude and before I knew I said…they’re for my mother in laws funeral.
I tried to not, but the tears rolled down my face and she said “oh I’m sooo sorry, don’t cry” Then she said “come here, can I hug you right now?” It’s gonne be alright and she hugged me tight and rubbed her hand on my back. That might not seem like much but in this hate filled world of folks trying to keep a race war going, and folks not caring about others…it meant the world to me.
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Hate Letter to Autistic Child’s mom – Thoughts?

The following is a story I found on Facebook. I have friends with autistic children and follow with all of the charity work and fund raisers I do I meet a lot of families with autistic children. This is hard for me to swallow. I can't imagine anyone thinking these things, much less a mother. 😦 Sad. Just sad.

It makes me angry….so very angry.

I am going to post the story directly from the news site and I'll post a picture of the letter.

***IMPORTANT*** If you are directly close to an autistic child – this letter will be hard to read – and it will probably make you angry – and maybe even cry (if you are sensitive like me). I'll try to follow this story and let you know if anything every comes of it. The police did open an investigation and I hope they find this woman….

 

Story following:

The Crown Attorney's Office in Ontario says a letter asking the family of a boy with autism to move or euthanize him falls below the threshold for a hate crime, despite the hateful language, Durham Regional Police Service said in a release Tuesday

However, police will consider whether the letter violates other sections of the Criminal Code.

A criminal investigation is currently underway after the Newcastle, Ont., family of a 13-year-old boy who has autism received an anonymous letter telling them to either leave the neighbourhood or have the boy euthanized.

The boy's grandmother, Brenda Millson, said she was shocked when she read the letter, which arrived in her mailbox on Friday.

The author of the typed one-page letter claimed to be a mother who lived in the neighbourhood and was upset at the noises Millson's grandson Max made when he was outside.

The letter went on to say the boy's “noise polluting whaling (sic),” scared the author's “normal children”.

It also included statements such as “he is a hindrance to everyone and will always be that way” and “do the right thing and move or euthanize him.”

Millson said she immediately reported the letter to police.

She said Max lives with his parents and older brother in Oshawa, Ont., but he had been visiting her home in Newcastle.

She said the author of the letter may have assumed she is Max's mother.

“At first I couldn't believe what I was reading,” she said, adding that she was shaking in disbelief.

“It's just so sick.”

Durham regional police said they have been investigating since Friday and that they are taking the letter seriously.

Max's mother, Karla Begley, 44, who is in a wheelchair with multiple sclerosis, said police told her they had never seen a letter “that despicable.”

Speaking on CBC's Power and Politics, Ontario Premier Kathleen Wynne said she was “in tears” when she read about the contents of the letter.

“I just think it is horrific,” she told CBC's Evan Solomon.

“There is no place in society for this kind of attitude.”

Wynne urged the author of the letter to reflect on the inclusive nature of Canadian society and realize that Canada is a country that accommodates many different types of people.

“Part of our strength is that we can provide for everybody, and diversity is part of what defines us,” she said.

The only hostility the family had sensed in the Newcastle neighbourhood was four years ago, she said.

At the time, Max loved to throw a ball in the backyard and as he often threw it over fences, Millson had written her name and address on it, Begley said.

One day it arrived in the yard tattered, she said. “They took the time to shred the ball with scissors and throw it back over.”

Begley added the family did not know what yard the ball was thrown into.

Millson said Max is a wonderful, sweet and lovable boy with a 16-year-old brother who was “infuriated” and “disgusted” by the letter.

Millson said the letter is “pretty gutless.”

On Sunday night, at least 120 people waited outside the home for more than an hour in order show their support, Begley said. Families with autistic children drove in from Oshawa to show their support.

“Max was high-fiving everyone. He didn't understand but knew it was for him,” Millson said.

Begley said support for the family following the letter has been “bittersweet,” adding it's too bad it took such a letter to bring attention to a special-needs child.

“It's just a reminder, you know, you've got to treat these kids like they need to be treated,” Begley said. “They just want to belong.”

Anyone with any new information regarding the investigation is asked to contact Const. Thompson of the East Division Criminal Investigations Bureau at 1-888-579-1520 ext. 1604.

Anonymous tips can be made to Crime Stoppers at 1-800-222-8477 (TIPS) or at http://www.durhamregionalcrimestoppers.ca.

So….that's the story….

Please post your thoughts below and share/re-blog to get the word out! Especially if you have connections in Ontario.

 

PS…BIG hugs to Max, his mom & his grandma…all the way from Texas. ❤